Dulce de Leche has recently written some posts that fit well in the theme of this ‘Myth Busters’ series. They’re full of great ideas to add to our parenting toolboxes. Here are some snippets:
This was not a sign of disrespect, although it was frequently interpreted that way. On the contrary, if I had truly not cared about her opinion, I wouldn’t have bothered to engage as much.
Is it fear or true compassion that is motivating you? Do you need to take some time to achieve clarity on the issue? Telling your child, “I didn’t realize how important this was to you. Let me think about it some more,” is a valid, authentic and helpful response.
Once you move past the united front, there is an entirely different view of problem-solving and collaboration that opens up. You are forced to confront your true needs and reasons behind a direction. When those are clear, then you work together as a united front–parents and children–against the problem, with a large opening to see out and view fresh solutions.
I hope they bless and challenge you as much as they did me. Enjoy!