Myth Busting 3: Backtalk, Consistency and the United Front

Dulce de Leche has recently written some posts that fit well in the theme of this ‘Myth Busters’ series. They’re full of great ideas to add to our parenting toolboxes. Here are some snippets:

Backtalk

This was not a sign of disrespect, although it was frequently interpreted that way.  On the contrary, if I had truly not cared about her opinion, I wouldn’t have bothered to engage as much.

Foolish Consistency

Is it fear or true compassion that is motivating you?  Do you need to take some time to achieve clarity on the issue?  Telling your child, “I didn’t realize how important this was to you.  Let me think about it some more,” is a valid, authentic and helpful response.

Deconstructing the United Front

Once you move past the united front, there is an entirely different view of problem-solving and collaboration that opens up.  You are forced to confront your true needs and reasons behind a direction.  When those are clear, then you work together as a united front–parents and children–against the problem, with a large opening to see out and view fresh solutions.

I hope they bless and challenge you as much as they did me. Enjoy!

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About Claire

I'm part-time stay-at-home mum to 3 children under 10. We're trying to raise them with the gentleness and creativity God uses with us. I'm also a part-time nurse and a volunteer breastfeeding advocate. We live not far from the beach or the bush in NW Tasmania.
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4 Responses to Myth Busting 3: Backtalk, Consistency and the United Front

  1. Dulce says:

    Thank you so much! I am learning and growing from all the wonderful posts here at Dare to Disciple and GCM. I am so grateful that you all are in my life! ❤

  2. Pingback: Myth Busting | Why Not Train A Child?

  3. enjoyed your blog… best wishes from israel

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