Author Archives: Claire

About Claire

I'm part-time stay-at-home mum to 3 children under 10. We're trying to raise them with the gentleness and creativity God uses with us. I'm also a part-time nurse and a volunteer breastfeeding advocate. We live not far from the beach or the bush in NW Tasmania.

Authority, Obedience and Nelson Mandela

Image credit: Okay Africa This is ‘Mac’ Maharaj. Ever heard of him? I hadn’t. He was imprisoned with Nelson Mandela, and smuggled out his book, Long Walk To Freedom. Later, he served as Minister for Transport in South Africa’s first … Continue reading

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A last resort…

I spanked my 2yo but only as a last resort. Or so I believed. But you know what? When I quit spanking… My list of discipline options got longer! It had to – when I knew hitting wasn’t an option, … Continue reading

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Myth Busting 12: Punishment Works

When I was a punitive parent, I didn’t understand what people meant when they said that spanking doesn’t work. I’d think, ‘Well, it works for me…’ As I came out of the punitive paradigm I started to be able to … Continue reading

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Some thoughts on Proverbs 23:11

Barefoot Betsy had done a fabulous job of discussing the interpretation of the rod verses and why we believe they are meant gently and figuratively.  Her series on the subject starts here. But in discussion in the comments section of … Continue reading

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On God our Father

My baby turns 10 months old today. He has been walking, unsteadily, for about a week. He was taking 2 or 3 steps for a couple of weeks before that. Last Tuesday evening, I saw a change in his thinking. … Continue reading

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Myth Busting 10: Newborns can’t smile

My third child, now 9 months old, was not very happy about being born. It was a lovely calm home birth in water. According to the ‘rules’ he should have been calm, staring into my eyes with fascination and then, … Continue reading

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Myth busting 9: right away, all the way, with a happy heart – or it’s rebellion!

Part II: Is Disobedience to Parents Rebellion? To obey is better than sacrifice…for rebellion is as the sin of divination, and arrogance like the evil of idolatry (1 Sam 15:22-23 NIV) This is a tricky question. After all, we have … Continue reading

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Myth busting 9: Right away, all the way, with a happy heart – or it’s rebellion!

Part I: Delayed or grudging obedience is disobedience? Scenario: You are a secretary. Your boss walks in and tells you to go check the company’s postbox because she’s expecting something important. Among the possible responses: You immediately drop everything and … Continue reading

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Myth Busting 8: Breaking a lamb’s leg

Now the tax collectors and “sinners” were all gathering around to hear him. But the Pharisees and the teachers of the law muttered, “This man welcomes sinners and eats with them.” Then Jesus told them this parable: Suppose one of … Continue reading

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Myth Busting 7: You must hate your parents!

A while back, someone made the following comment: How people, who should know better, who where raised in serious christian families, try to construct their life into being a victim of their ‘bad’ or ‘afouled’ parents and their ‘bad’ view … Continue reading

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