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Myth Busting 12: Punishment Works

When I was a punitive parent, I didn’t understand what people meant when they said that spanking doesn’t work. I’d think, ‘Well, it works for me…’ As I came out of the punitive paradigm I started to be able to … Continue reading

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Spare the Rod – Harper’s Bazar (1867)

From the November 23. 1867 edition of Harper’s Bazar, pg. 50: Spare the Rod “Spare the rod, and spoil the child,” says Solomon, which the severe interpret to mean literally the laying on of the birch, the rattan, and the … Continue reading

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Adhesive: Life part 2

Or, Greenegem Revisits the E.R. So the LAST thing I ever wanted to do was end up back in the emergency room, but do so I did… When I wrote the last post I was having some mild pain, but it … Continue reading

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Boundaries revisited; among other things.

 Lately I’ve been wondering where ‘I’ begin. Someone said “Your rights end where mine begin.” But then WHERE is that? It is not a geographic boundary, but it is so definite that it is almost a tangible thing… especially when … Continue reading

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Myth Busting 4: My story

A complete change in paradigm doesn’t happen in a moment. Having been punitively parented myself, I grew up assuming it was God’s best for every family. I believed that the punishments I had experienced were appropriate and I was grateful … Continue reading

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Spanking and Proverbs – Part 2: Interpretations

In my last post on the topic of Proverbs and the issue of spanking, I concluded that regardless of your interpretation of the “rod” verses, spanking is not a salvation issue. Proverbs is not a book of law or of … Continue reading

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Spanking and Proverbs – Part 1: Context

Before I begin, I would like to take this opportunity to thank again those who responded to my previous post! I appreciate greatly the respectful comments and queries since this issue has the potential to become very contentious. Indeed, this … Continue reading

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Side Effects of Shame- the legacy of punishment.

The Legacy left by punitive parenting is undoubtedly a sense of deep personal shame. This extends back generations in my family, and that legacy will affect my children’s children as well. My Grandparents, Parents, Siblings, and I have all been … Continue reading

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Onward and Upward… part three of the journey towards Grace.

Everlasting Life… Has a nice ring to it, doesn’t it? Of all the things we should be most concerned about in regard to our children, it is the spiritual life which should concern us most. Our relationship with our Creator … Continue reading

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