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Myth Busting 12: Punishment Works

When I was a punitive parent, I didn’t understand what people meant when they said that spanking doesn’t work. I’d think, ‘Well, it works for me…’ As I came out of the punitive paradigm I started to be able to … Continue reading

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Myth Busting 8: Breaking a lamb’s leg

Now the tax collectors and “sinners” were all gathering around to hear him. But the Pharisees and the teachers of the law muttered, “This man welcomes sinners and eats with them.” Then Jesus told them this parable: Suppose one of … Continue reading

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Myth Busting 6: “I could see it in her eyes”

I’ve heard parents saying this of their very young (less than 2 yo) children. “She knows what she’s doing is wrong. You can see that mischievous look in her eyes. She knows Mummy’s not going to like what she’s about … Continue reading

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When Kids Have Big Feelings

I think I’ve finally arrived as a parent. Marigold told me, “I hate you!” yesterday. Most people really struggle with that. Who wants to hear those words come out of their child’s mouth? What an awful thing to say! But … Continue reading

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Husband vs. Children?

This post is a mini-carnival post – please check out this post for another take on this topic 🙂 There seems to be a pervasive idea in the Christian community that the husband’s needs should come before the children’s needs. … Continue reading

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Myth Busting 5: Put the marriage first

This post is part of a mini carnival. Here’s Barefoot Betsy’s take on the subject. A lovely lady at playgroup was enthusiastically telling me how helpful Growing Kids God’s Way has been to her and her husband, “especially what they … Continue reading

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Myth Busting 4: My story

A complete change in paradigm doesn’t happen in a moment. Having been punitively parented myself, I grew up assuming it was God’s best for every family. I believed that the punishments I had experienced were appropriate and I was grateful … Continue reading

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Dealing With Anger

Michelle asked for tips on controlling our tempers. This is an area I struggle in a lot, and I don’t really feel qualified to answer the question, as I fail so often. But I have improved a little over the … Continue reading

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Nothing to Write Home about…

  Some of the Fallout from choosing a radically different lifestyle than my parents did, is that very often I have nothing to share with them. They call… we chat… but the conversation remains shallow; conceptual. Always in the back … Continue reading

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Myth Busting 3: Backtalk, Consistency and the United Front

Dulce de Leche has recently written some posts that fit well in the theme of this ‘Myth Busters’ series. They’re full of great ideas to add to our parenting toolboxes. Here are some snippets: Backtalk This was not a sign … Continue reading

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